Expectations Can Make You Unhappy

Many of us have been brainwashed to believe that if we just find the right pill, be it an antibiotic, a vitamin, an anti-aging elixir, etc, we'll be cured and healthy. We have learned through advertising and many medical promises to have unrealistic expectations. Of course we find out the hard way that it's simply not true. We may find a pill that helps, but we eventually realize we also may have to change our life-style, lose weight, exercise, and/or develop a healthy regime of vitamins and good supplements in order to feel better.

It's the same belief we have that if and when we find that perfect someone who will be our soul mate, that all our worries will be over. We'll be happy. Of course that's not true either. If we aren't happy within ourselves, there is no one who can make us happy. Our loved one can make us happier, but to expect our partner to totally and completely make us happy is an unrealistic expectation which is doomed to disappointment.

It's true that sometimes I resort to St. John's wort to keep my mood elevated, but I know that how I view life is up to me. It's my responsibility. Harry, my late life love, certainly has put a lot of fun and excitement into my life as well as love and caring, but I have to try to keep my own life full and interesting as well. I also have to try to make his life more fun and show my love, too. It's a two way street. Again, it's just not one thing that makes a good relationship, but a number of things. He's certainly the only man I've ever met who enjoys going shopping with me and actually encourages me to buy shoes. Now how perfect can someone be! Of course neither one of us is without faults, but it would probably be boring if we were. And how lucky I am that he creates the great cartoons for this blog. On the other hand, we can't seem to decide how to merge our households. Neither one of us is all wise about everything.

Thought for the day: When you're driving your car and someone follows you so closely that their bumper seems to be almost in your back seat, do you ever get the urge to slam on your brakes? I often think of the scene in "Fried Green Tomatoes" where the annoyed Kathy Bates rams her big car into a little car driven by a young pretty gal who has stolen her parking place with the comment that the intruder may not be young and pretty, but she (Kathy) has better insurance! What's your thought for the day?

And now, the latest astrology tips from my friend Sheila!


The two weeks after the full moon in November is the time for all water signs which include Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces to shift into a lower gear. Cancers should take time to relax, spend some time alone, and enjoy some entertainment (but not doing the entertaining). Pisces might do the traveling previously scheduled in the summer. Scorpios could use this time to make some great moves in smart money management.

For all air signs, relationships may be uncertain due to their erratic nature. We'll take a look at the secret works of Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius as we move along, but for this November, Gemini wants "change" just for the sake of it, perhaps to adjust projects from the summer. Libras may not maintain their expected pace, but it will improve. The week of Thanksgiving brings some adventure. Aquarians should hold off on making permanent changes. Something totally different will be taking place and new people will enter into the picture during the holidays.

Earth signs tend to be black and white about their thought processes, but are deeply committed to the ones they love. Taurus needs to nail down some decisions about events from May through June and now is the time to decide. Virgo desires security from now and through the New Year, however this may bring about some self-defeating behavior. Reconstruct your workload. Venus is in Capricorn now so the holiday spirit could start early, and as Venus always suggests, look your best! Appearances are everything to Venus.

The fire signs of Aries, Leo and Sagittarious are hot. They are great at new beginnings and are very proud of their accomplishments. Aries is in for a great surprise after the Full Moon week with a possible smart investment or windfall. Exotic desires will be intriguing after November 19th. For Leos, a new start boosts your sense of adventure and your charitable side is willing to be generous. November for Sagittarius is a whirlwind of fascinating opportunities and challenges and how they love a challenge! From now and into next month will be your most productive times. New friends and lots to accomplish is the menu for the birthdays up to December 21st.

In our next visit I'll be discussing the compatibilities of the signs as we move through the years and just for fun, I'll compare the charts of Harry and Gloria. Is this a match made in the heavens or ? Where could they find trouble? Anticipate some great secrets, fun, surprises and even some seduction tips. Follow the stars to find love, success and happiness! Your star gazer, Sheila

Well, that's all for this post, my friends. Hope you had a good time reading it and we'd love to hear from you. Gloria