The Romance Game Should be a Game

Hello again,

Well, not a game of hiding who we really are as the cartoon suggests! It's a good idea to be honest about who we are and what we really like. In my post for the blog "Romance after 50" which you can click on from this page, I talked about making the Romance Game fun. And it should be. But not at the expense of the person you are dating. We also have to be honest with ourselves.

I remember dating a really nice man who was a publisher of a magazine as I was. But he was so boring. I did try to admire his writing and his publications. He had made a lot of money, far more than I had made or was making. After a few dates, I was busy when he called. But I did try to let him know what a nice person I thought he was. It never hurts to be nice.

If you can't be who you really are, then that relationship is doomed sooner or later.

I look forward to chatting with you soon.

Gloria

Love & Expectations

Hello again,

I'm still in the throes of learning how to post. I've written one about expectations and what part they play in looking for love and romance. Unfortunately I clicked for a preview and now I can't bring it back to you. Please have patience. It may be a couple more days before I can find help to bring it to you. Enjoy the new cartoon by Harry Borgman. In the meantime let me suggest another topic to consider.

Think about what is important to you in your life. Do you really love animals - your dog or cat? Do you like to travel? Do you enjoy an active social life? What about sports?

You really need to consider that old idea that opposites attract. That may be true but after the first rush of hormones, what will you do together in your spare time? I have found that generally the more mature seeker of friendship and romance tends to look for someone who likes the same thing that s/he does. Plus spending time in activities that you enjoy may be a place you could meet that special someone.

More on this tomorrow. If you have a question, let me know. Thank you for your interest. Good luck. Gloria

What's Love All About?

We grew up with the story about Cinderella finding her handsome prince while the ugly stepsisters failed to find theirs. No wonder we're all insecure about our looks and shapes. The guys have to wonder about their looks, too. If they are not handsome princes, will a gal be interested in them? What have we done to ourselves!

Let me reassure you, regardless of age or surface attractiveness, romance could be right around the corner for you. Or if you choose to just look for a good friend, that's OK too. It was in the 1990s that women truly came to realize that it fine to live alone. And today there are numerous opportunities to travel or socialize as a single which didn't exist earlier. That's thanks to the women's movement which started in the 1960s.

However, we're here to talk about love and romance and finding that certain person who is right for you.

The first thing to consider is our expectations. You can desire almost anyone, but realistically look around you. Would you really want to have someone so different from you that you would be uncomfortable. I once dated (for many years) a man considerably younger than I. While it was fun, I always had to be careful not to date myself when I opened my mouth. Also his and his friends' tastes in music and activities were quite different. Who were they talking about? I sometimes wondered.

Think about what your expectations are and what kind of person with whom you would like to spend a lot of time? Certainly not someone with whom you could not be yourself or with someone with whom you would have to pretend to be someone you are not.

Here's your cartoon for the day!

Gloria

About this blog

In "The Romance Game" Gloria Bursey, author of "50Ways To Find Romance" will talk about the many ways to find love and romance as well as hints of all kinds to add fun to your life.

The blog will also offer astrology forecasts of the best romance days and what sign is best with your sign....all in fun.

We'll have a cartoon about love and romance - as soon as I learn how to transfer them to this site.

Keep watching. We'll share secrets and and tips for all.