Monday, October 27, 2008

Too Much Fun

Hello there,

It's been a while but I have been thinking about you and our lives and romance. I hardly know where to begin. Romance is a state of mind. It's a perspective as to how we view life. And it's in all parts of our lives, not just a romance between two people. It's the passion about what's happening around us. It's the love of travel. It's the delight in our friends. It's liking ourselves.

Since I last posted I have given a birthday party for my son and while it was a lot of work, it was also a lot of fun. I saw many dear friends and discovered all the great party food one can buy at the store. While it's difficult to think of cleaning one's house as romantic, I discovered old pictures of dear ones now gone which brought back many wonderful memories.

My friend, partner, love of my life, Harry Borgman, (he now has a blog: harryborgmanartblog .blogspot) drove up from his house to attend another party the night before my son's. Then he helped me the next day with my son's party as did my daughter and grand daughter. The following day we drove back to Harry's which is 100 miles away to attend another party at the Craig Smith gallery where his art is on display. Talk about romance. We have been having entirely too much fun and I, at least, am exhausted. I need to have a boring day!

I think the place to start this blog, perhaps, is at the beginning. While I'll skip over much, I have had an unusual life with I guess you could say a degree in finding romance. It's been an exciting life, not always fun, but almost always interesting. I think part of the reason that I've had a great time is that I've seldom been afraid of trying something new. I've also explored all kinds of things such as health possibilities, astrology, glamour, etc. And so rather than just talking about romance per se, I feel that I would like to talk about the many things that affect the romance of our lives.

In the next post I'll introduce you to a good friend and astrologer, Sheila, who will explain her craft and occasionally give you good dates to look for romance or dates of caution. You'll be able to contact her directly for your specific forecast of possibilities if you wish.

That's all, my friends, for today. I'll get back to you soon. Let me know what you would like me to talk about. Oh, and if you will click on "more about the author" you'll find my second blog, romance after 50. I'm not sure how to access it directly, but will find out soon. In that blog I'll bring you stories directly from my book, "50 Ways to Find Romance after 50" and new interviews as well.

Look for the romance in your life. Your guide, Gloria

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

The Romance Game Should be a Game

Hello again,

Well, not a game of hiding who we really are as the cartoon suggests! It's a good idea to be honest about who we are and what we really like. In my post for the blog "Romance after 50" which you can click on from this page, I talked about making the Romance Game fun. And it should be. But not at the expense of the person you are dating. We also have to be honest with ourselves.

I remember dating a really nice man who was a publisher of a magazine as I was. But he was so boring. I did try to admire his writing and his publications. He had made a lot of money, far more than I had made or was making. After a few dates, I was busy when he called. But I did try to let him know what a nice person I thought he was. It never hurts to be nice.

If you can't be who you really are, then that relationship is doomed sooner or later.

I look forward to chatting with you soon.


Friday, October 10, 2008

New Post - What's Love All About (scroll down 2 posts)

Hi dear friends,

Two posts down you'll find my next blog which I wrote a few days ago and then lost. When I finally posted it, I found to my dismay that's it's out of order. You'll also find a new cartoon. Sorry. Eventually I'll get better at this.

By the way I found romance following my own advice. In the near future, I'll tell you about my travels on the road to romance!


Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Romance: today and yesterday

Hi dear friend,

Attitudes have changed considerably in the past 50 years. Back then, women were just beginning to break into the executive suites. Marriage was then the high point of a woman's life. A career was just something to do until she found the right guy.
Not so today. Women have extremely successful careers and wield great power. Unfortunately, they still do not earn equal pay, but that's another story. The point is that women as well as men do not have to marry to have a happy and successful life. It can be more fun, however, to meet that wonderful guy or girl. But sharing a life is not always easy. Hence, the high divorce rate.

I urge you to look for someone who shares your views, your hobbies, your passions, if you will. All too often you may meet someone you just adore, but who may love sports which you loathe or old cars which you find boring or parties which you dislike. If you have to grit your teeth while you smile during some of your dates, you may want to reconsider your choice.

There are hundreds of possibilities out there. Yes I know it often doesn't seem like it, but you may not be taking advantage of all the different ways and places you can meet that special someone. Including the internet. It has become quite socially acceptable to try dating on the internet - as long as you are careful. And we'll discuss that in detail along the way. Just be prepared to go slowly and carefully. It's also best to date those who live within about 60 miles from you. That way you can meet their friends and relatives. You'll know they are honest and available. Of course you still may not know all their intentions. I know of both men and women who have been 'taken' by a seemingly wonderful person. This can happen whether you meet that person in church or on the internet. Well, I'll try to walk you through some of these encounters as we talk on this blog.

Again, as I mentioned in the previous column, think about what you like to do and what kind of life you might choose to live. And let me know the subjects which you would like discussed. I'll also tell you in my next column about my lifelong quest to learn about The Romance Game!


Monday, October 6, 2008

Love & Expectations

Hello again,

I'm still in the throes of learning how to post. I've written one about expectations and what part they play in looking for love and romance. Unfortunately I clicked for a preview and now I can't bring it back to you. Please have patience. It may be a couple more days before I can find help to bring it to you. Enjoy the new cartoon by Harry Borgman. In the meantime let me suggest another topic to consider.

Think about what is important to you in your life. Do you really love animals - your dog or cat? Do you like to travel? Do you enjoy an active social life? What about sports?

You really need to consider that old idea that opposites attract. That may be true but after the first rush of hormones, what will you do together in your spare time? I have found that generally the more mature seeker of friendship and romance tends to look for someone who likes the same thing that s/he does. Plus spending time in activities that you enjoy may be a place you could meet that special someone.

More on this tomorrow. If you have a question, let me know. Thank you for your interest. Good luck. Gloria

What's Love All About?

We grew up with the story about Cinderella finding her handsome prince while the ugly stepsisters failed to find theirs. No wonder we're all insecure about our looks and shapes. The guys have to wonder about their looks, too. If they are not handsome princes, will a gal be interested in them? What have we done to ourselves!

Let me reassure you, regardless of age or surface attractiveness, romance could be right around the corner for you. Or if you choose to just look for a good friend, that's OK too. It was in the 1990s that women truly came to realize that it fine to live alone. And today there are numerous opportunities to travel or socialize as a single which didn't exist earlier. That's thanks to the women's movement which started in the 1960s.

However, we're here to talk about love and romance and finding that certain person who is right for you.

The first thing to consider is our expectations. You can desire almost anyone, but realistically look around you. Would you really want to have someone so different from you that you would be uncomfortable. I once dated (for many years) a man considerably younger than I. While it was fun, I always had to be careful not to date myself when I opened my mouth. Also his and his friends' tastes in music and activities were quite different. Who were they talking about? I sometimes wondered.

Think about what your expectations are and what kind of person with whom you would like to spend a lot of time? Certainly not someone with whom you could not be yourself or with someone with whom you would have to pretend to be someone you are not.

Here's your cartoon for the day!


Saturday, October 4, 2008

With almost every post there will be a cartoon by Harry Borgman. Here's a sample:

Tune in tomorrow for more. Have a great day. Gloria

coming post

This is Gloria Bursey, the author of this soon to be blog on romance and how to find it. Tune in tomorrow.