Hi dear friend,
Attitudes have changed considerably in the past 50 years. Back then, women were just beginning to break into the executive suites. Marriage was then the high point of a woman's life. A career was just something to do until she found the right guy.
Not so today. Women have extremely successful careers and wield great power. Unfortunately, they still do not earn equal pay, but that's another story. The point is that women as well as men do not have to marry to have a happy and successful life. It can be more fun, however, to meet that wonderful guy or girl. But sharing a life is not always easy. Hence, the high divorce rate.
I urge you to look for someone who shares your views, your hobbies, your passions, if you will. All too often you may meet someone you just adore, but who may love sports which you loathe or old cars which you find boring or parties which you dislike. If you have to grit your teeth while you smile during some of your dates, you may want to reconsider your choice.
There are hundreds of possibilities out there. Yes I know it often doesn't seem like it, but you may not be taking advantage of all the different ways and places you can meet that special someone. Including the internet. It has become quite socially acceptable to try dating on the internet - as long as you are careful. And we'll discuss that in detail along the way. Just be prepared to go slowly and carefully. It's also best to date those who live within about 60 miles from you. That way you can meet their friends and relatives. You'll know they are honest and available. Of course you still may not know all their intentions. I know of both men and women who have been 'taken' by a seemingly wonderful person. This can happen whether you meet that person in church or on the internet. Well, I'll try to walk you through some of these encounters as we talk on this blog.
Again, as I mentioned in the previous column, think about what you like to do and what kind of life you might choose to live. And let me know the subjects which you would like discussed. I'll also tell you in my next column about my lifelong quest to learn about The Romance Game!